Go first and be reconciled with your brother or sister, and then come and offer your gift.
The restoration of broken relationships is an essential part of seeking a deeper relationship with God. It is difficult to be conscious of being enspirited by Holy Mystery and still be consumed by envy or anger and engage in harmful gossip or criticism. To have the inner serenity we need, we have to remove the layers of misunderstanding and the grievances which separate us from one another. Scripture is startling clear about this. ”Whoever says he loves God yet hates his brother or sister is a liar” (1 John 40:20). Reconciliation requires honesty and understanding. “Go first and be reconciled…then offer your gift.” It isn’t easy but, “Then you shall know the truth and the truth will make you free”. ( John 8:32)
Loose the cords of mistakes binding us, as we release the strands we bind of others guilt.
Our Father (Translation from the Hebrew)
Reflect on the meaning of the prayer above.
“You have heard that it was said to your ancestors,
You shall not kill; and whoever kills will be liable to judgment.
But I say to you,
whoever is angry with his brother or sister
will be liable to judgment;
and whoever says… ‘You fool,’
will be liable to fiery Gehenna.
Therefore, if you bring your gift to the altar,
and there recall that your brother or sister
has anything against you,
leave your gift there at the altar,
go first and be reconciled with them
and then come and offer your gift.
All differences in this world are of degree, and not of kind, because oneness is the secret of everything.
One of the most striking differences between a cat and a lie is that a cat has only nine lives.
Feelings of worth can flourish only in an atmosphere where individual differences are appreciated, mistakes are tolerated, communication is open, and rules are flexible – the kind of atmosphere that is found in a nurturing family.\
It is understanding that gives us an ability to have peace. When we understand the other fellow’s viewpoint, and he understands ours, then we can sit down and work out our differences.
Harry S. Truman
Many people today agree that we need to reduce violence in our
society. If we are truly serious about this, we must deal with the
roots of violence, particularly those that exist within each of us. We
need to embrace ‘inner disarmament,’ reducing our own emotions of
suspicion, hatred and hostility toward our brothers and sisters.”
Dalai Lama XIV
Our anger and annoyance are more detrimental to us than the things themselves which anger or annoy us.
There is no revenge so complete as forgiveness.