“Speak the truth in love”, Paul’s words are direct and simple but in trying to act on them we often complicate things. It seems we either let our simplistic understanding of love to dilute the real truth and so speak an unclear or incomprehensible message, or blurt out the truth without compassion and generate resistance or anger. It isn’t easy to speak difficult truth to another, but to be silent or obscure is not to love the person. It is more likely to be a result of our own fear or cowardice. We do no service to the one who needs to know the truth. Paul completes his statement by adding, ”growing in every way more and more like Christ”. Jesus was not afraid to speak the truth. It certainly got him into trouble with those who would not accept it. For those who heard and experienced the love under the words, it was transformative.
May I mature in Christ, always speaking the truth in love.
How do I react when a situation that requires me to confront another with
the truth? Am I acting “more and more like Christ”?
Christ himself gave the apostles, the prophets, the evangelists, the pastors and teachers, to equip his people for works of service, so that the body of Christ may be built up until we all reach unity in the faith and in the knowledge of the Son of God and become mature, attaining to the whole measure of the fullness of Christ. Then we will no longer be infants, tossed back and forth by the waves, and blown here and there by every wind of teaching and by the cunning and craftiness of people in their deceitful scheming. Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ. From him the whole body, joined and held together by every supporting ligament, grows and builds itself up in love, as each part does its work.
We do not err because truth is difficult to see. It is visible at a glance. We err because this is more comfortable.
Men stumble over the truth from time to time, but most pick themselves up and hurry off as if nothing happened.
The truth will set you free, but first it will make you miserable.\\\
From the cowardice that shrinks from new truth; from the laziness that is content with half-truths; from the arrogance that thinks it knows all truth – God of Truth deliver us!
Honesty has a beautiful and refreshing simplicity about it. No ulterior motives. No hidden meanings. It reflects an absence of hypocrisy, duplicity, political games, and verbal superficiality. As honesty and real integrity characterize our lives, there will be no need to manipulate others.
Honesty consists of the unwillingness to lie to others; maturity, which is equally hard to attain, consists of the unwillingness to lie to oneself.
Sydney J. Harris
The cruelest lies are often told in silence.
Robert Louis Stevenson