Don’t you know me, Philip, even after I have been among you such a long time?
Separating this from any religious interpretation, consider it as a very human reaction. It is a feeling we have all experienced. Deep inside, we all want to be understood. We want those we love to know who we really are. In our actions, our words, our moments of self-revelation we offer our trust that we will be understood and accepted. Then in an encounter or a question our expectations crumble. Inside there is the painful echo:” I have been with you such a long time and you still don’t know me.” We often forget that Jesus was human like us. He had feelings and he had many occasions to be hurt and disappointed. The thing that is helpful to us is to reflect on how he handled it.
“Lord, I believe; help my unbelief!”
Have you had this experience? Separate what is significant from what is human weakness or lack of perception.
Jesus said to him, “Have I been with you for so long a time
and you still do not know me, Philip?
Whoever has seen me has seen the Father.
How can you say, ‘Show us the Father’?
Do you not believe that I am in the Father and the Father is in me?
The words that I speak to you I do not speak on my own.
John 14: 1-12
One of the most beautiful qualities of true friendship is to understand and to be understood.
Lucius Annaeus Seneca
In human intercourse the tragedy begins, not when there is misunderstanding about words, but when silence is not understood.
Henry David Thoreau
Everyone at some point in their lives feels excluded and misunderstood.
People understand me so poorly that they don’t even understand my complaint about them not understanding me.
Any fool can know. The point is to understand.
Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.